Swingers Stories are there any that are free? I am looking for free stories written by real people if there are any, as in not canned swingers stories. |
| Actually I know a good site for swingers stories, the site is totally free. I've even written a few stories there and a couple other sites. |
How do I tell my parents that I hate their "Swingers" lifestyle? I hear all sorts of stories about their sexual escapades from various sources...
I've also heard that they don't use protection at their "meetings" or "orgies"... whatever the Hell you call them...
I'm worried that they might bring something home and put my siblings at risk, what should I do? |
| I'm a firm believer in get the information correct from the source. Hear it directly from the horses mouth. Talk to them first and find out if it is even true are not. Then if they are swingers or looking into new or other sexual experiences it really is their own buisness. But you do have the right to be concerned on how it effects you and the other guys, not just with the health issue. Try to make them understand that they reallly need to be descreat about what they are doing because if you are hearing it through the grape vine then so are your sibblings and their friends and this really hurts you guys feelings and causes you to be picked on and treated differently. Get them to see how important their job as a parent is and the rest of you can't afford them to be gone or sick for a long time due to a sexually transmitted disease from unprotected sex. You would also not like to see them bring any diseases home that may be transfered to the family due to these actions, that once again you must understand they have a right to do them , you would just like to see some caution and percautions taken. I find that the kitchen area is the most comfortable and relaxing place to have conversations. Stay calm when you are talking to them but don't try to have the conversation if you are in it to sway their minds into not doing what they are doing with the sex. It is their busines. Do the conversation when you are sure you are into it for the safety and mental welfare of your self and your siblings. If you find out from them that none of it is true, then appologize to them and try your best to squelch the rumours befor ethey end up effecting your younger siblings. Rumors like this, wether they are true or not, can and will really hurt little and younger guys. Be into the conversation to help them. If you want some one to understand you then you must try to understand them to. GL!!! |
Divorced Swingers--is it real? I've heard about the "horror" stories of swingers. I'm looking for folks who got divorced as a result of swinging. Tell me who initiated swinging and who initiated the divorce and why? |
We've been in the Lifestyle for several years now, and we've never seen a couple get divorced because of swinging. We have however seen couples get into swinging to try to fix or save their marriage and eventually end-up divorced anyway.
As someone once said: "Swinging won't hurt a good marriage, but it sure won't fix a bad one."
Or as another friend, who is open-minded but not a swinger herself said after attending a few swingers parties with us: "Swinging is like the icing on the cake. But if the cake underneath doesn't have all the ingredients to make it solid, all the icing in the world won't keep it from crumbling."
I think that is the best analogy I've heard on the subject, and it came from a non-swinger.
The difference is those of us that are successful at swinging had a great relationship and a great sex life to start with. We got into swinging not to "spice up" our marriage because it was already really "spicey", but because we wanted to explore more together. We were having so much fun together, for us it simply was the next level.
Those that don't make it wouldn't have made it anyhow. They used swinging to try to breathe new life into a failing marriage and lo-and-behold, swinging didn't magically fix their problems. In fact, many times it can intensify them. The problems were still there along with some new ones. The same selfish issues that were creating problems in the relationship to begin with (i.e. being selfish with money, time, etc.) shows up when they swing too. It just adds one more issue for the couple to deal with.
So in short: no, I've never known swinging to cause a divorce, but I've know several couples that tried to use swinging to fix their relationship and still ended-up divorced. |
Have any Swinger / Threesome stories gone Bad? I think it will break my relationship up? We talk about it in bed during sex all the time......but, have yet to try the real thing. We're both Lesbians, but when it comes to sex, anything goes. We're interested to hear Real stories that went wrong so maybe we'll think twice about it. |
Here's a whopper of a story for you. Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall...My husband fell in love with another woman. Humpty Dumpty had a great fall...This woman told him there was no chance of an affair with him. Then she came to me and told me she was in love with me! We considered the threesome, got to the brink...everyone got confused and emotional...and all the King's Horses and all the King's men couldn't put Humpty together again...
The moral of MY story? Sometimes bedtime stories should remain just stories. |
New Swingers..Advice Pls???? me & my hubby are about to have our first swingers experience this saterday..(TOMORROW)!! lol,we've been talking to them on the phone & online all week..so i was wondering if anyone knows of any at-home sex games?? we have sexy dice,and playing cards,so if anyone knows any sexy card games,(other than strip etc...) pls let us know!!
the more ideas the better..also any other advice or stories from fellow swingers would be awesome..thanks a bunch!!!!
ps:we're new & just wanting to learn all we can about this lifestyle
thanks again!!!
<3Chrissy* |
We have been swinging for almost 9 years and have been exactly where you are about to be. "Breaking the ice" and getting the fun going can be so difficult, you could find yourselves sitting there most of the night looking at one another. As previously mentioned, begin with your spouse and allow everything else to happen naturally. We never got into too many card games or board games so no advice there. Hopefully, your added partners are more experienced and can take the lead but never assume that anything will happen. Enjoy the experience for what it is and do not rush anything.
Check out www.Ginsopinion for more advice and information.
Good Luck!
Ginni |
What was the Story about the McCanns being on a swinger's holiday? Was there any fact behind this rumour?
Are they Swingers?
Please understand I have nothing against any type of lifestyle I just believe you should carefully attend to all your responsibilities first.
For those Pros who may say its irelelevant I'll just say i know but i love stirring up the muck about these two...Why??
Because even if we believe their ludicrous story of abduction they have bought all this, every bit of derision and criticism on themselves. |
| all rumours.but you know rumours ,they are often true. |
Are there really swingers? i was wondering if there were any swingers on here that would like to share stories and advice with me? i have been watching the new series "swingtown" and now i am curious. |
My wife Cindy (52) and I (53) have been married 30 years, we are nudists and go to Nudists Resorts / camping often. Cindy and I love each other very much, we are soul mates, we enjoy and value our intimate time very much but when it comes to sex we are a total mismatch.
For over 25 years we have been sharing with our friends Tim (51) & Jackie (53). It started one evening when we were on vacation, the 4 of us were talking about sexual stamina and how strong of a sex drive we have. Jackie and I do not have much stamina in bed, while Cindy and Tim said that they can go on for hours. Jackie and I said that Cindy and Tim should see who could last the longest, a few minutes later they went into a bedroom. Jackie and I thinking they were joking sat and talked for a few. When we opened the door on Cindy and Tim to see what they were doing, they were so busy they didn’t even see us. Jackie and I went to other bedroom, we were asleep in no time. The next morning while Jackie and I were making breakfast Cindy and Tim came walking out of the bedroom naked; it was obvious they had just finished again. That was the first time I had ever seen Tim naked, I could not believe how big Tim was. After breakfast Cindy and Tim ask if was okay if they went back to the bedroom. Seeing them so satisfied we couldn’t say no, so Jackie and I agreed to it. Cindy and Tim spent the weekend in bed while Jackie and I spent the time sightseeing. It was a wonderful weekend for all of us.
Now we try to spend at least one weekend every few months together. When we do get together, Cindy and Tim get one bedroom, Jackie and I take another. Sometimes we will all go to bed together but Jackie and I never last as long as Cindy and Tim and we will end up go to bed in our room. One time the 4 of us went to a Swingers Resort for a weekend, none of felt comfortable and we left within a few hours. We do not swing nor do we have threesomes with any others. Jackie and I enjoy watching Tim and Cindy together; there is something to be said about seeing your spouse satisfied.
The 4 of us have gone from birth control to Viagra & Cialis together and it keeps getting better, in and out of the bedroom. |
Are there anyone who are swingers who are in their 20's to 30's? I had heard about swingers on tv and I know what they do. I was just wondering if I could hear some stories good or bad from people who are a swinger now or who once was one. Did it affect your relationship with your current partner too. Thanks.. |
| there sure are but they don't talk to internet losers |
Has anyone here been to a swingers club? My gf went to a party at a swingers club in Redmond, WA shortly after her divorce and ended up having a great time. She intended to check it out with a friend make it a short stay. She ended up spending the entire night there and did all sorts of wild things with both men and women. I asked her if she would take me some time because I've always been curious about that sort of thing and she agreed to take me to their next party. Well, I recently talked to a couple who attended the very same club and didn't care for it at all. They said that all of the people there were fat and ugly and they didn't see one person that they were interested in having sex with. Not only that, but they had to constantly ward off people who were asking them to play with them. The guy who owned the club even sat down next to them as she was giving him head and asked if he could watch! Now I'm not sure if I want to go! The two stories I've heard about this place sound entirely different from each other. |
The reason it's two different stories is it's two different people. You're girlfriend probably had a great time. This other couple may have been overwhelmed and in over their heads. Are they going to admit that or blame it on everything else?
You do the math there. ;-)
This is why we rarely take someone's word for it. We've met couples that people told us were this and that and found them to totally not be. For this very reason if someone asks us "Hey, you know so-and-so don't you? They invited us to a party, what do you think about them?" we just tell them we either hit if off with them or we just weren't compatible. Doesn't mean they won't be and why would we ruin what could work our for someone else based on our own preferences. Our preferences aren't everyone's preferences.
Same goes for the couple that went to the club, they weren't prepared for what they were getting into. Some clues they were in over their head and just not admitting it:
1) "The guy who owned the club even sat down next to them as she was giving him head and asked if he could watch!"
They obviously had no intention of playing with others, they just wanted to go the the club for some sexy times and play with each other. Which is fine, many people do that.
Someone watched her give her husband a bj? Well, they were doing it in a public area of the club, not a private room, what did they expect? That everyone would turn their heads and ignore them? Really. If that was going to be an issue they should have seeked-out a private area.
2) "...they had to constantly ward off people who were asking them to play with them."
Well let's see, they went to a swinger's club and then were offended they were approached by others to play? Wow, why didn't they just stay home if this was going to be an issue. They went to a swinger's club, right? Not Wal-Mart. They could just respectfully decline and after a night or two at the club everyone there would know that they are not a full-swap couple and from there on would just socialize with them and would no longer ask them to play.
3) "They said that all of the people there were fat and ugly and they didn't see one person that they were interested in..."
Their opinion. From what they also said they weren't interested in finding anyone to play with to begin with. It doesn't sound to me like they are a full-swap, or even a soft-swap couple. They are a voyeur couple who only plays with each other. And that is perfectly fine, everyone gets-off in their own way, but they are basing their opinion on the idea that everyone should do it their way and then being angry when they don't.
We've been to many house parties and clubs and I can tell you beyond question that they are not like what this couple described to you. It sounds like this couple had already made up their minds about what it was going to be like and for them they were simply looking for clues to support their predetermined opinion. They set themselves up for failure and are blaming it on everyone else.
Take their opinion with a grain of salt and listen to your girlfriend and go find out for yourself.
Some advice though, to make it a pleasurable experience be sure that you and your girlfriend set-down some ground rules before you go. Decide your comfort level. Decide if you are going to play just with each other, if soft-swap is allowed (making-out and possibly oral sex with others but no intercourse), or full-swap is allowed (intercourse). Be sure to communicate well throughout the night about things, like if you want to play with a couple or not. Don't assume she understands what you are signaling her and her, you. Actually break-away and talk about it before you precede with any couple or other person at the club. Make sure you are both okay with what is going to happen and with who. Accept that both of you has equal veto power and no means no. Don't be hurt if one of you isn't comfortable with a certain type of play or a person. Take it at the pace of the slowest person in your relationship, which from the sound of it, is you right now.
Do those things and you'll have a great time. If you don't then you'll just be jaded like this couple you talked to. I'm positive they didn't do any of the things I just mentioned.
If you have more questions and want to hear the straight scoop, check-out The Swingers Board Forums where you'll hear both the good and the bad in an objective light from people just like yourself all the way to veteran swingers. What you'll find is that there are as many ways to swing as their are people that swing. You just have to be open-minded to everyone's "way". |
Why would someone mention they are a swinger? I'm curious about why someone would make mention that they are a swinger. It's someone you have been friends with for over 10 years and they tell you a story how they went to a swinger's club and how their spouse was with another person.
I thought swingers' code was you don't really advertise it so why would they say anything about how they swing? |
| it is more common then you may think and some people do talk about it in hopes that their friends may want to join then. |